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10 Comebacks for When Someone Says You Dress “Too Fancy”

Whether we like it or not (we don’t), the reality is that women often need to do more than men to get the same amount of respect—and that includes the way we dress.

By Madeleine Kim

If you’ve worn clothes as a human woman, you’ve probably encountered a handful—nope, a bucketful—of men who feel entitled to question and comment on your outfit choices (“But I said you look sexy! That’s a compliment!!!”). And—setting aside that one guy in high school who generously alerted me to the fact that it’s “not attractive to us” when girls wear “those flowy skirts” (read: A-lines)—one of the more annoying forms of this happens when you’re told you’re dressed “too fancy.” I’m not talking about wearing a ball gown to the grocery store (but if that’s your thing, we support it). This recently happened twice in a row to a friend who showed up to her law school lecture with a blazer over her T-shirt and jeans. 

Whether we like it or not (we don’t), the reality is that women often need to do more than men to get the same amount of respect—and that includes the way we dress. Until that changes, here are some comebacks to keep handy for the next time you get some unsolicited style advice:

1.

“Sorry, does my blazer make your fleece vest feel intimidated?”


2.

(Assuming he’s wearing an ill-fitting and/or stained T-shirt.) “They say dress for the job you want, so I’m guessing you’re an aspiring...professional Fortnite player?”


3.

“Oh, Ted, I’m glad you’re here. The printer needs ink. Or toner. Maybe both.” (Most effective on people not named Ted.)

4.

“I’m surprised you noticed! It doesn’t look like you’re into fashion…”

5.

“If only I made more than 79% of what a man doing my same job would make, then maybe I could afford a hoodie as nice as yours.”


6.

(Loudly, gesturing toward your ears, and without headphones on.) “Sorry, noise cancelation!!”

7.

“This isn’t what I meant when I said you should work on being more detail-oriented.”


8.

“If I wanted your opinion on my outfit, I would have asked for it three weeks ago, reminded you twice, and then finally just given up and done it myself.”

9.

“Wow! Omygosh! Is that [insert name of older male actor who usually plays a reassuring father figure]?” (This will give you a chance to escape to the nearest conference room.)


10.

(Without looking up from your laptop.) “No cream, no sugar, just black. Thanks so much!”

Madeleine Kim

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Madeleine Kim

Madeleine Kim is a Senior Brand Associate at M.M.LaFleur, where she started out as a stylist. She loves developing styling-focused content and creating newsletters that bring the M.M. community together.

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